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So starting a business is a change, right? And so this is uniformly, this is, yeah, uniformly, is that right? This is, this applies to every situation, okay? So you have to understand that when you start a business, the very first thing that you're going to go through, the very first emotion is, called Uninformed Optimism. You are super excited about starting a business, but yet you don't know anything about the business. You don't know anything about running the business. You don't know anything about the hardships and all the stuff that's going to happen. And that's a good thing. It's honestly by design because to be honest with you, if I knew everything that I was going to go through and all of the stuff I had to learn and all of the growth and all of the pain, if I knew all of that before I started my construction business, I would not have started the business. So I believe that this is on purpose. It's, in other words, uninformed optimism, where you can call it being naive about it. And so we do those, we start a business without realizing it. Now, this is not to try and persuade you from starting a business if you're listening to this, but it is to get across a point that it's going to be much, much, much harder than what you probably think it is. There are a lot of people, a lot of contractors, some of you listening this to right now, that should not own a construction business. You are romanced. You romanticized about the idea of owning your business and you started it. But what you really, really wanted was to be a lead guy with full autonomy. That's what you really are seeking. You're seeking the ability. to be an employee. In other words, have the responsibility of being an employee, but then having all of the benefits of owning a business. And that's not how it works. I recently was mentoring and helping a young contractor who wanted to get into contracting. He had moved here from a different state for his wife was in school. And I met with him and he's like, I want to start my own business. And I said, look, I'll help you do this, you know, and I'll, you know, I'll have 24 hour,24 seven access to me and my knowledge and my programs and my training. The only thing I ask for is that I can film some of our sessions and, you know, use it as content in social media. So some of the videos that I posted have had him in there, maybe not on screen, but you've heard him in the background talking. And that was part of the deal. Now, at the end, after about a year or so, he decided, him and his wife decided to move back home. And so that business relationship that he had started here was terminated. But during that time, he realized how hard it is to own a business. And when it was all said and done, when he moved back home, he basically told me, I really just want to be a subcontractor. Like I just want to do the work and not have to talk to people and not have to go get my own leads and do my own marketing and deal with all that stuff. I really just want to be a craftsman and, you know, be able to take my time and work on the tools and do these things. And that's fine. There's nothing wrong with wanting to be a craftsman, with wanting to work on the tools, but you can't kid yourself here. You can't be a craftsman. And then also want to be a business owner and have the benefits of both worlds, right? It doesn't work like that. Now, one of my clients in the Profit Club, we were just having this conversation yesterday of recording this. And he's thinking about changing his niche, what he wants to do. Now, he's a carpenter by trade, but he was doing some remodels and different things. He's like, I think I want to do more, you know, just be a finished carpenter, like just be a sub and just. practice doing, you know, do the finished carpentry. And at the end of the conversation, we find out that he used to work in the restaurant industry and he's a sommelier. Like he was, he's a trained sommelier, which, which is someone that knows about wine. You know, they can, you know, you go to a fancy restaurant, sommelier comes out and says, Hey, this is the kind of wine that's going to work with the food you're eating. And the, the niche that we talked about is wine sellers. Like he is a find, you know, trim carpenter who wants to do high quality type work. And we talked about wine cellars and we're like, everyone on the call was like, dude, what do you like? You have to do wine cellars. I mean, you understand wine and how it has to be stored and what the purpose is and all that better than anyone else on this call or any other craftsman for that matter, trim carpenter. And so it opened up this whole niche world where he can now be more of an artist and do these high, high-end wine cellars. And you maybe only have to do two or three a year. Like you get paid 50,100 grand for a wine cellar. You only got to do two or three or four a year and you can have an amazing life doing that. That's like a one percenter. That's not reality for most people. That's more of an artistic track than it is. like business owner of a construction company track. Okay. So I just throw it out there to let you know, like, if you think that's going to be you, that's the equivalent of you thinking you're going to play in professional sports because you can, you know, shoot three pointers. You just assume you're going to play in the NBA. Like that's not reality. Most people don't make it. Right. So we got to set some like realities here of who we're talking to. Because everyone always thinks they're the exception of the rule. Oh, I'm going to be that guy. I'm going to be the guy that specializes in wine cellars and does that and makes millions of dollars and becomes famous and travels the world doing it for celebrities and blah, blah, blah. There's probably one person that does that in the entire world. And it's probably not you. So we got to set some realities. Now, this isn't to like say you're not capable. It's just a reality of winning the lottery. Like there are so many things that have to go in place for that to happen. So when you start a business and you're in this uninformed optimism, you think it's going to be great. You're going to start your business. You're going to throw a magnet on your truck. The phone's just going to ring off the hook and you're just going to make a crap ton of money. And you're going to retire by a, you know, your brand new F-350, put four inch lift kit and your 33s or whatever, you know, tires on their rims and you're going to be a baller. That's what you think is going to happen. And that doesn't, that's not what happens. For most people, again, there's always exceptions, but there's always like these right circumstances that happen. I get so frustrated. This is a tangent. I get, I mean, just like you guys, I get bombarded in my social media feed with contractor business coaches that are going to, you know, try to sell you crap. I get frustrated by them. It's no different than when we have another contractor that you know is a scam artist or that does crappy work and you know they're out there taking advantage of people. I see the same in the coaching space. I see it. It drives me nuts. I wish I could get rid of them. I see people out there talking about, here's how I built a $200 million business and we're going to teach you everything you need to know. And I do a little bit of research about them and you find out that they went into the solar panel business and they had some connections that allowed them to get big contracts. And then you do a little more digging and you find out that there's several lawsuits against them for defrauding people and lying and breaking the law. And it makes sense. From the outside looking in, you see somebody who looks super successful, but then you do the due diligence and you dig a little deep and you see that they made their money by ripping people off. Right. And so you see that glamour. You think it's going to be all, you know, rainbows and sunshine. And it's a lie. It's a straight up lie. This is the Reality Check podcast. Now, I'm not saying there aren't successful people who are doing good out there. There are. And I can name them for you. One of those on my podcast, Brian Gottlieb, great guest. You know, he exited his businesses for over $100 million exit. He's a phenomenal person. Like. very high integrity, super nice. I mean, he's just, he is a great person in general and has had a lot of success. And, you know, anything that he has to say, put out there, I would endorse it because he's a good person. But I see people every day lying. They use paid actors in their commercials. It's so obvious, you know, but anyways, I digress. I'm just telling you, I get frustrated with all the gurus and bull crap out there as well. So. What are we talking about here? What is the purpose of this podcast? I want to just give you some hard realities if you're new in business. Because maybe, just maybe, you need to close your business and go work for someone else. There's nothing wrong with that. There's absolutely nothing wrong with working for someone else. Some people aren't cut out to be a business owner. That's just a reality. If I can save you from 3,5,10 years of heartache, and, you know, just sheer pain only for you to figure out that where you should be is a lead guy, then maybe this is worth it. Okay. But even if you don't plan on ever quitting or selling or getting out of business, there's value in this podcast. So just make sure you stay with me. Don't exit just yet. Okay. So here's, here's a list of things that people aren't going to tell you that can happen in your business. No one's going to tell you that you're going to get rejected a lot. You're going to have a lot of people tell you no. And if you are always used to getting what you want, or if you don't like rejection, that could be tough for some people. But you're going to get rejected. You're going to have people cuss at you. That's going to happen at some point, right? You're going to have people tell you no. You're going to have people lie to you. You're going to have people take advantage of you. That's just... part of it. It's going to happen. You're going to have sleepless nights. You're going to be laying in bed, stressed out of your mind, trying to figure out how you're going to survive the next day. It's going to happen. You're going to feel overwhelmed. There's going to be times where you feel overwhelmed. I mean, completely overwhelmed to the point of almost shutting down. This is why there's a lot of addictions in construction. Lots of guys. They solve this through alcohol or drugs or smoking or pornography or gambling or hobbies, whatever. They solve this through those things. This is why you see a lot of people smoking. I mean, because they're trying to offset the stress. Okay. This is a reality, guys. This is true reality. Some of you listening are alcoholics. Some of you listening are doing drugs because you're trying to offset the stress. Not because you want to do those things, but because you're trying to offset the stress. Feeling of overwhelm. The dreaded 6 a. m. text from your lead guy that says, boss, I got a headache. I'm not going to be able to come in today. And you're like starting a new project. And the lead guy is supposed to be running this project. And you have three other sales calls that you're supposed to go do or estimates or whatever. And now your entire day just goes to shit, right? You're going to get those. It's going to happen. You're going to get the, you know, when you give someone a discount, you do a job and things don't go well. And you're like, you know what this, I don't want to charge them as much because the guys drag their feet or whatever the reason is like, I'm going to do a good thing for this person and just knock some off the, you know, off the bill. I'm going to knock a couple hundred dollars off the bill because I feel like we overcharged them. And then after you do that, the customer calls and says that you're a scam artist and you're ripping them off after you already gave them a discount. You know, they didn't know you were giving them a discount, but now they're calling you a scam artist. You're going to have that happen. Okay. When you have to replace two motors in the same year, when your vehicle motors blow up in two different vehicles and you have to replace those in the same year, that's going to happen. When your truck is completely paid off and you know, you've replaced one of the motors and you've replaced the transmission. It's fully wrapped and you're like, I'm going to keep this vehicle until the wheels fall off. Even if I go buy a new vehicle, I'm going to keep this one as a backup, you know, a parked runner or whatever. This is the vehicle. It's paid off. It's running good. And then you get T-boned in an intersection by someone who runs a red light and totals out your truck and you get one eighth of the value back. You have about, you know, $30,000 in this vehicle. And you get like $4,000 back, right? That stuff's going to happen to you. You're going to have a lead guy that quits in the middle of a job. And now that you thought you were off the tools, guess what? You got to go back on the tools until you find a new one, train them up. It's a three to six month process. It's going to happen, right? When you have employees that just like throw away perfectly good materials, you know, hundreds of dollars worth of materials because they really just didn't want to like, put it in the trailer or pack it back up or take it back to the store. So we'll just throw this stuff away because it's much easier. They didn't pay for it. You know, the customer paid for it. Who cares? When you get a call from the police that one of your employees was in a hit and run, you know, and they obviously saw your vehicle because it's wrapped and they call and say, hey, you know, he was in a hit and run. That stuff's going to happen. They don't tell you about that, but that stuff's going to happen. When you get calls, texts, and emails from clients at all hours of the day, I mean, all hours of the day, expecting you to be there on the drop of a dime and answering all of their concerns. When your family has to leave on vacation without you because you have to stay a couple more days to finish your project, and then you fly down two days later to catch up with them because, like I said, you've got to finish the project. They don't tell you about that. They don't tell you about all the sacrifice of that. They don't tell you about the dinners that you're going to eat that are cold because you got home late. They're not going to tell you about all the kids' activities you're going to miss because you had to go deal with something or go to an estimate. They don't tell you about when you have no money in the bank and you got bills to pay the next day, thousands of dollars worth of bills to pay. They don't tell you when you have no work lined up and you have employees who depend on you to provide for their family and the stress that goes with that. These are things that no one tells you that's going to happen to you when you start a business. Some of you, if I just read these off, like if you came to me and was like, Brad, I want to start a business. And I said, okay, cool. These are things that are going to happen to you. Is that what you want to do? And they're going to be like, nope, screw that. Maybe I don't want to start a business. And that's okay. Not everybody is cut out for owning a business. This is the part I'm trying to drive home. Owning a business is not all glitz and glam. It's not all Lambos and mansions. Yes, that stuff happens. Yes, it will come to you. But most of the time, people break before they get to that point. They break. They quit. They give up because they just can't continue to deal with that struggle. When it's every single day, you know, when these things happen, and that's just like in one year of business, all of these things happen to you, you know, or a couple years in business, that's a lot, guys. That is a lot of things to deal with. And if you don't have the mental fortitude, if you don't have a strong mind, it will break you. It will absolutely break you.